HEART VS HEAD: Making Wise Decisions in your Divorce
In your divorce, wise decisions are comprised of weighing both the practical, financial and logistical issues along with the intangible, emotional, and other feelings-based issues you are experiencing. Ultimately, this helps make you a decision that makes sense both personally and financially in the short term and the long term.
Published on May 7, 2020.
Despite Hollywood's entertaining characterizations to the contrary, the field of Family Law has greatly evolved over the years. That is especially true regarding the options for the type of professional help you can secure. You can make a commitment to one another to separate and divorce with grace and dignity AND have the legal help you’ll need to help achieve that goal.
Published on April 3, 2020.
Lifting You Up Or Putting You Down
Family law is ripe for disparaging personalization between divorcing spouses. It is often up to the professionals to set the tone when faced with parties going through an emotionally difficult transition in their personal lives. Looking into your post-divorce future, you probably won’t remember the details of the outcome, but you will most likely remember how you were treated by the process and the professionals you chose as your guides. Dignity matters.
Published on March 1, 2020.
Timing is Everything
The bottom line when considering the timing of your divorce hinges greatly on the process you choose. When I work with clients as a divorce mediator, we create a schedule that works around their timing needs. We set regular meetings, have an agenda for each meeting, and create an overall action plan that they can rely on and incorporate into the next few months of their lives. They know when they are filing their case to open it with the court, they have a general idea of when agreements can ultimately be reached, and the finalization of their divorce works around all the factors mentioned above. The pace is set by the clients.
Published on February 1, 2020.
A Radical Letting Go in the New Year
If your New Year resolutions include goals focused on what you can release? Ask yourself, “What no longer serves me moving into the New Year that I can let go of now?” If the answers involve transitioning out of your marriage, you know how difficult the year ahead may feel for both of you. Begin the New Year with new perspectives on allowing forgiveness and you may find this your best year yet.
Published on January 1, 2020.
All I want this holiday season: The gift of peace
When choosing to separate and divorce, do you want to work together with the same planning and give-and-take you used when you created your union? Or, do you want to become adversaries, relying on egos and hard feelings to fight over limited resources and parenting? I give great credit to those who can get past their pride and situational conflict to envision the bigger picture--a redefined relationship with your individual dignity intact. It's the gift of peace.
Published on December 1, 2019.
"Merry" or "Miserable" this holiday season: A primer for divorcing parents
It is possible for divorced or separated parents to create a very merry holiday season. The key lies in letting go of established routines and creating a new plan that works for each of you. The time you invest into creating new traditions allows your kids to relax into the holidays rather than dread them?
Published on November 8, 2019.
A Separate Peace: How to begin to transition out of a marriage sensibly and peacefully
Divorce transitions can be made sensibly and peacefully. It is possible to build a strong foundation for your new life ahead.
Published on October 1, 2019.
Separate BUT Equal: Creating a successful co-parenting schedule after separation or divorce
I frequently ask divorcing parents: “Imagine you are each of your children living the proposed schedule. With success in school being the focus for the week, how does all the back and forth feel?" Sometimes, putting the parents in their children’s shoes is all it takes to resolve the issue of separate BUT equal.
Published on Sepember 4, 2019.
Generosity and Gratitude: The journey to healing can begin before your divorce is finalized
When couples opt for divorce mediation, as opposed to individual legal representation, they have made a decision to navigate the journey of disentangling their marital life together.
Published on August 1, 2019.